What
is freedom to you? Many talk about freedom and freedom of speech and sometimes
they go further to talk about the free country etc. I believe the basic right
to breathe in a free environment is something we all bring in as our
birthright.
No
matter to whom we are born, our parents also let us to grow with certain
freedom and they control to some extent only to be more careful and be
protective towards their kids. Yet we as a grown up try to live a life that we
desired for, whether its to eat, drink or even to travel. It’s all about the
freedom of choices that we love to make and we are able to make. If someone is
not making these decisions for them because of financial elements etc. then its
still understandable because one needs to save money and then make those dreams
fulfill and live their life.
But
what would you call, when you think you are bringing your better half – whether
it’s a guy or a girl doesn’t matter in today’s world. All it matters is if two
people irrespective of their individuality, character, likes-dislikes they
should not control each other. I mean imagine the life, where a kid is
controlled and disciplined to an extent that he or she is looking forward to
that day when he or she will be independent and living by earning making a living
out of it. The first candy that one buys of with his or her own earned money
has a immense happiness and feeling of freedom and satisfaction as supposed to
someone buying and allowing you to eat an expensive chocolate.
I
am extremely sorry to share a story here where the person has been so much
controlled and been taken to slavery that the person didn’t even feel that they
are taken away of their freedom. They do not even have a freedom to eat certain
food that they want to eat, drink or even do what they would love to do.
If
you are not living a life that makes you happy then you are not living. No
matter how much you make, how big house you own, the ultimate happiness is in
living with freedom. Freedom to speak, freedom to share your opinion, freedom to
eat what you want to eat, and freedom to what you want to drink, freedom to
breathe basically.
I
am totally against women or men who try to control their better half’s to show
their power or satisfy their ego – I want to tell them one thing that you are
ruining your own life and the person’s and if you have a kid then the kid as
well.
People
have relationships and people do break off from relationships. In Indian
society and some conservative thinking people do believe that it’s a crime to
divorce which itself is teaching that no matter what you have, no freedom once
you have tied the knot with the other person. This even sounds like a jail.
I
mean every relationship doesn’t have to end up into divorce but basic rights of
living every human has that right and as a man or woman of the family you must
rise and shine to live a life that you got.
I
am a feminist yet, I am against those women who boast about their control on
their husbands. Its sad and shameful for such women to boast and feel pride in
it.
But
then, I also believe that the one who suffers is more at fault than the one who
is making you suffer.
Being
a victim knowingly is no solution and no way to live your life. I believe when
you live in a free country, with freedom of speech how worth is to live if you
don’t have freedom in your own house?
Wake
up people, you have only one life and that too at someone else’s mercy? Shame!
Think
of those people who have all their life fought for their freedom, for their
rights till the end to make their point across. This is in your home, no one
should control you what to do and what not to do as long as you are not harming
anyone. For me if I want to drink a glass of wine, or an ice cream its my
freedom of choice to make but if I am trying to have these in the middle of the
night and my husband is saying its too late to have it – I understand and
respect because he cares for me. But if he is saying, you cannot drink because
I don’t want you to, then you need to find out what it is? Is he trying to
control you? Or is he trying to impose his rules on you? End domestic torture.
"The world is already yours - why try to conquer it?"
"Control is the inner disease of those who need stability and order to function."
~ Dawn