The art of conversation lies in listening..!

There are so many ways we express and these days there are so many ways that you can express yourself.

Here it is about talking, expressing yourself through words to someone. There are times when we talk, explain and make one another understand each other. It could be at work, at home or at any place that you can think of. 

These days people have emojis to express but then that doesn't give you sufficient ways to express - say if you are happy you will say 😄 but why you're happy you can express through that emoji can you?

"Speech is power: Speech is to Persuade, to convert, to compel." ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson 

Hence, talking and expressing is so important, but if no one listens to it then what's the use of that talk or expression? I learned in a sales training that it is so important to listen. It's not that before that I was not listening, I would listen to whoever is talking to me, whether my friends, my family or even someone who is fighting , still I will give an ear to it. 

"Freedom of speech should be wide open as long as it doesn't incite violence." ~ Mike Leach

I believe, one should listen to understand the issue, or scenario to come to any conclusion because otherwise it is called assumption and one shouldn't make that because it will not lead you any where. Hence, listening to someone as what they are trying to say? If you still have doubt you can ask questions and get clarification but if you just stop listening and keep blabbering while the other person is talking then its a chaos monkey!!!

And when someone does that, you know they don't want to listen and when they don't want to listen means they are not willing to make any friendly approach towards what you are planning to share.

It's very absurd when someone tells you that you talk but I am not going to listen. There is no point in saying even that you talk!

"The power of speech is the ability to express a lot in a few words." ~ Plutarch

I had such experience but somehow I wanted them to listen what I had to say because it is very important to clear off any misunderstandings and I always believe one must get the opportunity to clear that off. No matter what, one must listen and then what you have to make a decision is up to you but make sure you clear your part either by talking or by writing because these days communication can be in many different ways. People send flowers and express their happiness and love so why not we listen if someone is talking to you?

"One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say." ~ Bryant H. McGill

I understand unnecessary talking becomes noise. When someone is explaining the situation or a question or an expression in what regards they started, that should help the person who is listening. Hence, a communication and a good conversation is very important between people and if there is no hope still a goodbye is a good closure to the topic but yes, you must say and listen to it too.

~ Dawn

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Stand Up for what is right, Even if you stand Alone...!

There's a big controversy going on based on what actress Parvathy has said about Kasaba malayalam movie in which Mammootty is the main actor. 

When this movie came out me and my husband tried to watch this and we couldn't even go forward with it after 15 mins. It was disgusting and the only reaction I had was, how come the actor didn't feel anything in doing such a film?

Well, time went by and then I saw Parvathy's opinion about this movie in the film festival and to that I thought of writing a blog post and then I said to myself, ah! leave it!!
And then I started getting news about this everyday as Google has its way of feeding in based on what I read online.
I see there's a lot going on because what Parvathy has said about the movie. I find it so useless that people forget the main point and start attacking the person without understanding what the person is trying to convey.

"Social media is about sociology and psychology more than technology"

If anyone is watching that Kasaba movie, try to put yourself as a woman or your mom, sister and relative in that and try to understand how you will perceive for your own people. It's that feel is what is expressed by Parvathy which is not respectful and should not be glorified by the hero of the movie because in India that is considered as the hero's personal view even though he/she might be working on it based on the money they are receiving for acting in that movie.

Cinema is one of the medium which brings awareness and openness in the society. We all learn and sometimes we see what's happening in the society is also shown through the movie. At the end of every story there is a moral and what message we are trying to convey is what matters and I am not sure if Kasaba has that moral at the end because I have not seen that movie.

Having said all that, I think Mammootty being a senior actor of the Malayalam film fraternity should stand up next to Parvathy and support her opinion as anyone in this world has a right to have their opinion and freedom of speech. Mammootty should show at least that much of maturity. I have more respect for his son Dulquer Salmaan - who is also an actor who supported Parvathy and not went wild with Mammootty fans.

"Maturity comes when you stop making excuses and start making changes."

This is the time when one should stand together and show some respect for the industry that they work together, instead he is sitting quiet and people are taking a troll on this by harassing Parvathy and by using disrespectful words which again goes against women, against feminism and that shows the basic thinking of people how they are raised or being fed with such thoughts that they don't respect women and their freedom of speech.

Sad, Mammootty is one guy who can stop all this nonsense that's going around online. Show some respect towards your colleagues and members of your film fraternity!

"The world suffers a lot. Not because of the violence of the bad people, but because of the silence of good people"

~ Dawn