Monday, July 16, 2018

A Bart ride one afternoon...

This afternoon for some reason instead of taking Uber I decided to take Bart.
When you are not used to public transport for long time, it can freak you out. I was making sure I am getting into the right train and then when I did get into one, I made sure I am sitting at a seat which is near the door and was constantly looking at the window to check which station it is.

“Time goes faster the more hollow it is. Lives with no meaning go straight past you, like trains that don’t stop at your station.” ~ Carlos Ruiz Zafon

I had been a heavy user of public transport when I was in Toronto, Canada and to tell you the truth I enjoyed it even though the initial radar of alertness was always there about your surroundings but that I don’t look at as inexperience. I rather feel one should be cautious about their surroundings always.

“You can’t understand a city without using its public transportation system.” ~ Erol Ozan

Bart, I always have heard negative things whether it’s about the issues with the riders or with the train itself. All these thoughts were going through my mind but being positive as my habit I enjoyed the ride. Few people were getting off as their destination arrived and the train was getting empty or rather it was getting more spacious.

I saw three kids – I can say because there was a boy who could be of 4- 5 years old and he was being referred as Chris. Chris was getting bored and restless and one can see that because the other two people (boy and a girl) who looked as if they are a couple but very young may be around 18-19 years old and I don’t know their names. Chris was so restless that he started lying down on the seat and later on the floor of the train and I wondered why he is doing like that and how come the couple doesn’t say anything to him.
As I was thinking about it, the girl started calling him, Chris, get up why are you being like this? And the boy had no response.
After long time Chris got up and sat on the seat and I was in between busy looking at the name of the station as the train stopped.

“The easiest way to meet people is to just look like someone who is willing to listen” ~ Robert Brault

The girl who was sitting with her boyfriend, looking at me she said, Ma’am are you a therapist by any chance?
I looked at her and smiled and said, ‘Why? You need help for Chris?

She smiled back at me as if nodding yes!
I looked at Chris who was turning his back to me and looking at his mother (by now I heard the conversation where she said you are not listening to your mom).

In a friendly way, I said – Chris, want to be my friend? Give me hi-five!
The mother or the girl as I referred above, said Chris see the lady wants to be your friend. At this, Chris got shy and he started hiding his face.
By that time the boy who was sitting next to Chris’s mother said, why you taking help from strangers?
The girl/mother replied, well you’re not helping me either, so I asked for help at least it will keep him away from misbehaving.

It just took me to think, teenage lovers and probably became mother and all these responsibilities. I felt bad for Chris, because he needed someone who can understand him and probably spend time with him.

“Sometimes the greatest adventure is simply a conversation.” ~ Amadeus Wolfe

I wish I could do something, but I cannot. As the train stopped at my destination, I got up from my seat and waved at Chris, saying Bye Chris, take care.
The mother/girl, immediately asked Chris to say – bye! He was still shy and instead the mother said – Bye lady and you have a great day and thank you!

I smiled back waving at her saying you too!

I reached home and shared the story with my daughter because she is 19 years old and I shared how I felt for that girl and her child.

Sometimes, kids are not kids anymore and those who are kids they don’t get to be kids anymore!!! ~ Dawn

~ Dawn

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Friday, July 13, 2018

Alone you can do so little; together we can do so much ;)






 Thoughts have been going around in mind since the world cup season started but then I couldn’t find time to jot it down.
Besides engaging myself at work, these days giving time to read. Reading is like spending time to reflect and I am sure those who write would agree with me that it is important to reflect and read because that helps 😊.

Having said all of that, my main topic is about the game. Indeed, last time I was cheering for Brazil, Spain and then we all know what happened. But hey, that didn’t let me lose hope this year I cheered for Brazil and I wished for Argentina to make it to the finals and play opposite to Brazil, I did support Spain and with all that has happened I did support Croatia and was really happy to see they won the match against England. 



I have friends all over the world and the beauty about this so called ‘diversity’ is that you change jobs, you meet new people from different parts of the world and it’s an engaging experience. I have so many friends from England and felt sorry to see their reaction when they asked me ‘Why Croatia?’

Yes, it is hard to justify anyone when you are not from one of those countries who is participating in the world cup. I feel I am above all those barriers. To me its people and as I watch and read about these players my support and cheer goes to those and main reason to be with Croatia is because of the captain of the team Modric. I sincerely felt that match they should win because of their performance on the field.

“It’s hard to beat a person who never gives up” ~ Babe Ruth

Anyway, I was more here to share my thoughts in the form of poetry, when I thought of soccer and golf:


Happen to be a fan of soccer as a kid and played in the rain too
Eleven players on a rectangular field with spherical ball
Run and chase around without touching the ball with hands,
Only to put the ball in the oppositions goal to score a point,
You use your feet to strike or pass the ball around,
When you make a goal against the opposite team,
Depending who scored highest will win,
If they are equal, then it’s a draw and if not,
You get extra time to play or penalty shootout,
To make things even with your opponent,
Isn’t that something we all would like 😊,
When we are losing, or struggling an extra time can help,
Soccer the rough game we play by kicking and heading,
Running and chase to get the ball and put it in others post,
For all this one does some tricks, kick and play foul too,
Like a punishment a colorful card is given to you by referee,
What a fun game which originated as a kick ball.
The I saw this club and ball sport called Golf,
The players will use various clubs to hit the ball
Into series of holes on a Golf course in as few strokes,
This one needs usually has progressing 18 holes,
For some recreational ones have 9 holes,
Each hole on the course must have a tee box,
And putting green with actual hole or cup,
Each hole on a course is unique in specific layout,
Golf is played with lowest strokes called stroke play,
Or lowest in the entire round called match play,
Some say it originated from Romans paganica and
Some say it originated from China chuiwan or is it the
Cambuca or chaugan or kolven, wherever it originated,
The rule is to play with all fairness,
I often looked the two balls and wondered…
How two balls make the world go crazy around
Some with teeing ground and some with rectangular field
One is individual and the other is the team sport
All I know soccer is fun even if you kick one another!!!


 That reminds me the weekend is busy with finals I am excited, are you?

“Talent wins games, but teamwork and intelligence wins championships” ~ Michael Jordan

~ Dawn

Tuesday, June 05, 2018

The wounded recognized the wounded



Living in the city can be so different than from the remote villages, one can never imagine.

There is no electricity in the house at night, oil lamps made of brass is used and nature at such times is so quiet and dark that one can only be speechless. The cricket noise and sometimes you will hear the noise in the grass which could be of a snake who is finding its way to you.

All that is scary and adventurous especially when you are visiting during school vacation.


“A vacation is having nothing to do and all day to do it in” ~ Robert Orben


The little girl Asha, who is only 5-6 years old is scared of all these creatures be it snake, insects because some of these ones she has never seen in the city and the variety of spiders you get to see in the rain-forest areas, and their names are more or less the knowledge that she takes from here to her school to share with her friends.


Life in the middle of greenery can be happy until one morning she saw some rashes on her hand. It looked like a rash on the skin which if broken can spill the water and be infectious. She ran to show this to her mom.


Asha: Mom, look …look what happened here? Its red and I feel like itching, but I am scared.


Mom looks at it and talks to her sister (Aunt) Leena.


When Aunt Leena looks at it her immediate reaction -  oh this is spider poison. This is easy to cure once we show her to the village spider physician who practices Ayurveda medicine.


Mom is not much impressed as she doesn’t know if that will help Asha.

However, they plan to take her to the spider related issues treating physician.


Asha along with Aunt Leena goes to see the Ayurveda physician.

The physician of course was an elderly person with grey hair, unshaven slight gray beard with aged grayish eyes, skinny staring at Asha. Asha got scared at first and she hesitated to be in front of him, so she stayed behind her Aunt Leena.

Aunt Leena gave the details and pulled Asha with her hand to show the rashes.

The physician holds the hand and checks with holding his glasses and says yes this is spider bite and I can give her some medicine for which she needs to take shower and come in a towel. This seemed like Ayurveda with some magic.

Asha was scared and whispered to her aunt, ‘you also come I am scared to go alone’!

Aunt Leena said, ‘you should be fine he is going to treat you and give medicine’.


Now, Asha goes to this place where it’s all covered with coconut leaves as a shed and she goes in there with a towel wrapped and finds this physician is waiting for her.


Asha as always cautious and nervous in front of strangers, sat there as the physician asked her to do so. He started chanting some mantras and as he was chanting his hands were touching Asha on her head, shoulder and then her stomach and below when Asha got uncomfortable and started crying to raise her voice enough to be heard, because at this time she feels she is all alone.

The physician gives a stern look at Asha with his grey eyes and splashes some water and then lets her go.


“One believes things because one has been conditioned to believe them” ~ Aldous Huxley


Asha is all scared and comes home with her aunt Leena and the moment she gets in the house she runs to her mom and holds her and starts crying.

Asha’s mom asks what happened, what did the physician say?

By now Asha stops crying and tells everything in detail that happened to her.

Asha’s mom gets furious, and she goes out of the room scolding her elder sister Leena,


“Is this how they treat here? I thought he is a respectable man in the community and this is how he treats small kids?”


Aunt Leena when she heard the story, got so angry that she straight went to the physician immediately without thinking for a second time and broke that treatment shed and called off his son to stop this business. She yelled at them saying, “I will let everyone know in this village what you do and how you treat people”.

By saying that she broke the shed and walked out of the place.


That was the day and the spider treating physician’s business was never seen or heard ever. After that incident his shop was closed forever. Asha felt that spider is less scary than the physician. She still can see his face and that picture of the shed where she was sitting and the physician sitting in front of her staring in to her eyes.


“Childhood should be carefree, playing in the sun; not living a nightmare in the darkness of the soul.” ~ Dave Pelzer


We always respect people who are elderly and hence people wouldn’t talk openly about such molestation and abuse that might be still happening around the world. It’s still a taboo and many places it’s the elderly age that inhibits to expose them because they fear what other might say or think about them.  


“She is still a prisoner of her childhood; attempting to create a new life, she re encounters the trauma” ~ Judith Lewis Herman


We should be able to share things with our near and dear ones otherwise there is no use of calling loved ones anymore.

If loved ones are the one who are taking these kids, then they need to be extra careful no matter how well you know the person.


Protect your kids from these vicious animals because this puts a life-long impact in the minds of these children who are molested, the spider bite can always be cured but the mental trauma is something that keeps haunting.



“If the sound of happy children is grating on your ears, I don’t think it’s the children who need to be adjusted.” ~ Stefan Molyneux



~ Dawn

Thursday, May 10, 2018

They should tell you when you're born: have a suitcase heart, be ready to travel...

This morning I read Shweta Nanda’s article on empty nest. I applaud her to acknowledge something like this and not shy away because of the celebrity status quo.
Some of her call outs in the article made me think that may be for homemakers sometimes it’s more difficult than the women who have career outside. Homemakers focus, and dedication is all around the home and associated with it and hence when kids go away the void is bigger than what the working women can feel and that is because working women share some space with outside world whether it be with work and with colleagues and friends.

“You will never achieve what you are capable of if you’re too attached to things you’re supposed to let go of.”

Homemakers have to start from the scratch and that itself is a change which could be challenging, one can feel that more in the article.
I also read in her article about “life is flawed, there is no such thing as a soulmate and nothing lasts forever is so empowering.”

This statement made me a bit sad or should I say I still want to believe there is something called soulmate and yes when nest is empty one can plan life with their soulmate, it could be traveling, a peaceful walk/hike or even spending time together doing similar tastes of hobbies. But given that kids have gone and now your partner is also not there then definitely its individual choice that one needs to make and for a working woman she may have many options by choosing a job which gives more travel opportunity or travel to different country and work there as long as you want to stay there and move on to next and so on.
But yes, when you hear nothing lasts forever that kind of gives you freedom and hence it is empowering.

“We have nothing that is really our own; we hold everything as a loan.” ~ Nicolas Poussin

All this tells me is process for detachment and this doesn’t have to be until the kids leaves the nest. It can start early by teaching your kids to be independent early enough to manage their own things with parental guidance.

I often think of those moments where kids will go away, and my heart should not cry or depend on them. Of course, as a mother you will always care for the well-being of your children but when children have left then we should allow them to lead their life the way they want as by now we have raised an adult who will make the decision that is appropriate for them at least.

Basically, it ends up with a task completion of raising kids and let them fly and we move on with another task which should be nourish yourself that gives more happiness and contentment in life.

“If you depend on others to make your dream come true, it may not ever happen.” ~ Dawn

~ Dawn

Wednesday, May 09, 2018

Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength

The fear of dying is not that much as much as fear of losing is, why?
Because we are well aware that dying means it’s a complete dead end and it won’t matter to us anymore if anything happens.
It is totally different while you are alive, how deal with day to day activities and incidents. Based on these I always feel human is not futuristic at all because we are always worries with our immediate requirements and how to fulfill them.
How come we don’t worry everyday about driving our car to work or whatever our destination may be? Because driving a motor car is more dangerous if we are not careful and can cause damage to self and others, that’s more chaos yet without much thinking we take our car keys and walk out of the door with the confidence that we will be back home. We even tell our family, dog and everyone that see you in the evening. But then we worry about what if I lose this job today or tomorrow? What if I am not able to pay my mortgage? What if I am not making money? Will that make a huge impact? Or will I survive?

“People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them.” ~ George Bernard Shaw

I would say leave all that worry behind, when we cannot control something, not even death then why worry unnecessarily about anything?
If things have to happen then it will happen, and the consequences will be seen and mitigated accordingly then. I truly take this guidance from my Dad because even when someone pick-pocket a large sum money from his pocket, my Mom was concerned about the money that is gone and my Dad was like it’s gone so no point in worrying. All I look at it as that money was not meant for me.
So easy, phew! I also agree with that why worry about something which is already gone? And why worry about something which has not happened yet?

Be worry free and live life every moment ~ Dawn

~ Dawn

Tuesday, May 08, 2018

Poetry is an echo, asking a shadow to dance...!

Time many people call is valuable and is running all the time.
I wonder doesn’t this time gets tired of running this fast all the time?
And why should we run around him like a slave, when we say don’t be anyone’s slave?
So many contradictory statements we make and still we follow them, why?
Are we so hypocrite or we are helpless in front of all these?
This doesn’t help, because what is the use of being knowledgeable and yet can’t follow what we believe in?
Why we call ourselves independent and yet see ourselves tied to a clock, a calendar, a place and so many such things?
We do call things are all materialistic and we should keep ourselves free of them, yet this dilemma, why?
Do we really know that we still follow things that we don’t want to follow?
Are we confused that we stumble upon things like a trolley and just go by the flow and speed?
Or is it that we make a goal for ourselves calling it a passion and the rest is tied-up to all these immaterial things that bind us, tie us to a tracking system?
Why we are and what we are?
There might be an answer for each one which might be different. I am searching mine hope you find yours.

~ Dawn

Monday, May 07, 2018

Do not become a slave to society...!



Last week I happened to watch a regional movie. It was funny with the name ‘Uncle, my dad’s friend’.

The name was such that one would only imagine what it could be…but anyway I didn’t put much effort to my mind.

As the movie was progressing it was kind of building a suspense as one can expect anything and when I say anything the hype is being created about a possible molestation or a rape only because there is a male and female are involved.



I agree with the kind of things happening in the society, people do make up their mind to tune to one aspect of it and always tend to think the worse than anything good.



“We are fickle, stupid beings with poor memories and a great gift for self-destruction.” ~ Suzanne Collins



Here the situation is a friend’s daughter is near the bus-stop to catch a bus to go home which is in another state. The guy who is this girl’s dad’s friend recognizes her helps to drop her home. Since the journey is long and tiring they do take a halt at one of the places and next morning they continue on their journey. During all this time the audience is built with suspicion is it here things will go wrong or yet to happen. Anyway, there is nothing between the two, but the society doesn’t seem that way and hence they create a fuss about this two traveling alone. Even when the parents accept that their daughter spoke to them and they are aware of their daughter being dropped by this family friend, society doesn’t see it right and they even blame the parents for sending a grown-up girl with a guy.



“A society that puts equality before freedom will get neither. A society that puts freedom before equality will get a high degree of both.” ~ Milton Friedman



What makes me surprise is that even though the daughter and uncle and her parents all are on same page, but the society is so narrow minded that even a good man will be painted with rapist, womanizer and a molester – that’s the society we are living in.



“Society is funny. They ask you to be yourself and yet they judge you.”



These days it’s not limited to man and woman as it can be for LGBTQ members as well. When will society really mind their business and help the world navigate in the right direction? When will we start seeing through a lens where we are not discriminating and treating everyone as human? Society never comes to help when and where it is needed, they will always do the opposite – why?



On Twitter I read this, and it really made me sad …



Me: I'm just not happy.

Bishop: You need a family, it's the only way to be truly happy.

Me: I'm gay.

Bishop: You don't need a family, you can still take the sacrament as long as you don't act on this.

Me: What do I do? I'm lonely.

Bishop: Pray, the Lord will help.



I am not here to change anyone’s belief, but I want to tell that look after for your happiness and protect yourself. Because if you don’t take care of yourself no Lord will do. Because the lord lives in you. Please do not suffer in silence.

There is a reason for your existence, and you must be strong to set example and help others who might be in the similar path of suffering.



“No two leaves are alike, and yet there is no antagonism between them or between the branches on which they grow.” ~ M.K. Gandhi



~ Dawn

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Sunday, May 06, 2018

"Compassion will cure more sins than condemnation"

Yesterday I was supposed to post this but got busy with things and didn't get a chance so here it is.


When people say no matter what you should forgive others and move on, it's not a morality thing only or a saying or a quote.
I believe we all are human and hence we make mistakes and we learn from our mistakes. It's easy to say learn from others mistake but some situations never come around as if it's going to repeat someone else's mistake. It's just that we are not aware of things at times or situations that make us fall for and later repent. These kinds of mistake we do and better be learn a lesson from it. At the same time, the mistake that we do what impact it brings on others is a big one depending on the type of mistake.
Some mistakes we do is by getting hurt and some mistakes are by hurting others. In all this I believe if we all understand and forgive each other it is like a meditation. I remember my grandma used to tell there is nothing bigger than forgiveness.

"Forgiveness does not change the past but it does enlarge the future" ~ Paul Lewis Boese

Actually, it is true because when someone makes a mistake and instead of forgiving if you show the grudges or anger which is natural that as human you might have those emotions because you are hurt, then the person who made the mistake instead of feeling sorry would feel that good he did that. It's a natural instinct because if we don't treat each other with empathy we turn into avengers.

However, if you after lot of processing of course it is not easy because many times its the kind of grudge or ego that we all carry doesn't allow us to forgive and hence we all need the time to heal and make that attempt to forgive.

"To heal a wound you need to stop touching it"

The story is that when someone has made a mistake and they are sorry for the same, and forgiveness is given thats the most tough time for the one who has made that mistake as he is feeling so much regret and ashamed of what he/she it helps them to atone for their mistakes.

Otherwise, anger only brings anguish and revenge.

Forgive those who have hurt you because either they are not aware of it or did things accidentally. For you to live in peace is to forgive them and for them its your forgiveness that makes them mostly to reparation. 

~ Dawn

Friday, May 04, 2018

All I want is a clear mind and a happy heart :)





It is crazy I realize that when we are pumped up with energy, passion and time we commit too many things. Yes, that is how I feel because yesterday I was so full of energy to write about my poetry month experience that I committed to write each day a post and I thought at that time, I will be able to do so because I often have so many thoughts that I can jot down.

"Over-commitment is what happens when your enthusiasm for life collides with the reality of your calendar." ~ Rachel Schultz

Today, after the busy and good productive day mind is kind of blind and I thought I might write a poetry stating the frame of mind, but I guess it is better to state my mind in sentences.
A busy day with lot of planning and forward thinking on the process really gives an internal satisfaction to mind and heart specially when you love your job. Today is that day where I felt leadership minds coming together with the plan for that will bring success to the team and to the business. 

"A mind open to alternative perceptions is a mind aligned with love."  

It is very important not to burned down all the energy of your team and get a result which is quality wise lacking because at the end of the day its human to have work-life balance.
Being a disciplined and process oriented person I do believe that these processes do not tie you down just for the sake of it. It should make a sense and result out of it otherwise we have the option to modify it.
I see that happening after lot of discussions and its a happy ending... May the 4th be with you all!

"Clear your mind. Your heart is trying to tell you something."

Happy weekend

~ Dawn

Thursday, May 03, 2018

"We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect"

It was for the first time I did participate in the poetry month celebration where each day I was writing a poetry in Hindi and English.
Writing for me is something that comes from heart. I will not have anything written for days and weeks and that’s okay because mind has to process sometimes and it’s a dilemma what to process and extract out of it and what not to.
But putting oneself through challenge is also a fun, an art and it helps to see yourself how you perform.

“You must stay drunk on writing, so reality cannot destroy you.” ~ Ray Bradbury

I did poetry every day and that too in two different languages and made sure that before midnight I fulfill that deadline. However, I would like to confess that as the time nears to the end of the month you really get shortage on topics and the challenging aspect of that to me is that I am not able to write if it’s not from my heart. Hence, situations like that did allow me to do some soul searching within.

It’s a good practice and while I was in the middle of April poetry month I told myself probably I will continue this even next month and this is how it should continue. But by the time it was April 30th I felt I need to take a break 😊.

“There is no real ending. It’s just the place where you stop the story.” ~ Frank Herbert

Hence, I thought of writing my experience of this writing poetry every day during poetry month. What surprising to me was that even though I was writing poetry in two different language my topic was different which makes me wonder why?

When I decided to work on this poetry each day for next 30 days, I found that I was focused, and my mind was not wandering anywhere because with the new job it’s interesting how I am enjoying the work, team and overall experiencing the change. In that whatever time is left it was for thinking for that day what happened or what stuck to my heart that I can write about.

“Start writing, no matter what. The water does not flow until the faucet is turned on.” ~ Louis L’Amour

Since I have joined the new company, I have been saving time on the commute and this is allowing me to read a lot. There has been lot of reading on the internet and it’s so amazing that I got back to my reading which is very addictive, and I have enjoyed this addiction in the past.

Even though I am late for this month by two days, I have decided to write prose on different topics based on what pricks my mind for that day. Today I had to share my poetry month experience and I hope my readers who liked and commented had some experience to share here.

Always challenge yourself it keeps you active and young ~ Dawn

~ Dawn


Monday, April 30, 2018

Looking back to this date...!



I was lost in thoughts,
As it took me by flight,
The memories of yesteryear,
When I was still a newbie,
In a new country that I chose,
Was a newbie at the job too,
Meeting different people,
Few motivating and still,
Many discouraging each day,
It took me to think about,
A plan with some way out,
Some with temptation,
Asking to change religion,
Translating their poems,
Without any payments,
Calling it a godly work,
I lost the faith itself,
The inside me was stubborn,
Didn't want to listen,
The more they said go back,
I strongly said I stay back,
With a job that paid minimum,
Only covering few hours,
Yet the heart was determined,
With full of passion,
Being only 21 days in the country,
The courage to see the unknown,
Was like a craving fervor,
Looking back to this date,
Brings waves of emotions,
With sweet memories and lost ones!

~ Dawn
#happypoetrymonth 
 

Sunday, April 29, 2018

Why can't there be no borders and welcome all?




The struggle to survive,
Humans to live a decent life,
Let it be natural calamity,
Or even man made atrocities,
Humans are like cockroaches,
Climbing the walls to escape,
Get to the other side of the wall,
In the hope of a better life,
Humans fighting with humans,
To survive, peacefully with family,
Aren't we all taking refuge here,
Because no one in reality owns,
When we don't own anything here,
Then how can we build walls to stop?
Who are we to stop others from living?
We are all refugees, stop thinking great about self,
For some a better chance and others don't,
Every life matters and everyone has same rights,
Then why we let our own race struggle?
Why there's a difference between people?
Why can't there be no borders and welcome all?

~Dawn 

A Bart ride one afternoon...

This afternoon for some reason instead of taking Uber I decided to take Bart. When you are not used to public transport for long ti...