Saturday, March 15, 2008

“Behavior is a mirror in which every one displays his own image”

Lately, I have been analyzing things as why certain people behave in certain manner and when I ask people say it might be ‘Jealousy’.

“In jealousy there is more of self-love than love.” ~ Francois de la Rochefoucauld

I wondered…why Jealous? What is the reason behind it?

I think ‘jealous’ is the final product. The ingredients are inferiority, failure and lack of confidence in self.
A person never tries to give up any opportunity where he/she is trying hard to harm someone and yet he/she gets unsuccessful as the evilness of that jealousy is not satisfied.

“Jealousy is nothing more than a fear of abandonment”

I am not sure if you have come across people whom you can clearly see that they are jealous of other person or so. It can be anything, a friend getting jealous of her own best friend due to her popularity, her success or may be she is liked by most of the people. It can be between husband and wife; it can be between siblings too.

“The true test of character is not how much we know how to do, but how we behave when we don't know what to do.” ~ John W. Holt Jr.
Don’t we see kids get jealous when they see there parents are kissing or hugging the little one, the elder kid will rush to the parents saying – no, give me hug and kiss…and this is a very cute behavior that we see as it’s the naïve feeling of that child.
But when a person is grown up to be called as an adult and yet the feelings are such where one can feel that this person is not comfortable as he might have lot of dreams and ambitions in life but instead of putting his/her effort in fulfilling those, they see their immediate people around them, which could be family, friends or colleagues and see that they all are happy in what they are doing…this happiness shows them as if they all are successful and this person himself is not.

“Be careful what you pretend to be because you are what you pretend to be.” ~ Kurt Vonnegut Jr.
Similarly, there are other phases of people behavior which I call as hypocrite :)
Have you ever come across where a person will talk to you as if nothing has happened yet behind they will complain or have a deadly plan to hurt the other person?
“The hypocrite who always plays one and the same part ceases at last to be a hypocrite”

These are all the analysis but then there should be a solution to it…I think the person who is suffering should get treated but what others can do about whom these diseased people are attacking…?

Ignorance should be the first attempt, I feel but how long?

“The greatest ignorance is to reject something you know nothing about”

13 comments:

Sunil said...

Jealousy comes due to lack in self knowledge. It comes due to fear of ones weakness.
The quotes you select are simply worth noting down.

Nice post Dawn.

Have a nice time. :)

Keshi said...

Great quotes with great words from u too. HUGS!

I agree...jealousy is self-love, not real love. Also jealousy occurs in ignorant ppl.

Keshi.

Rauf said...

Sehr, there are various levels of happiness, perhaps ending with ecstasy, there are not enough words to describe them. And my knowledge of English is not very good. Same goes with dislike and hatred. Happiness love hatred anger jealousy are normal human emotions. We only become fakes supressing them. i often find one set of behaviour for ourselves and a completely different one for public display. This does not display the person's image as your title says. We are often misled by the behaviour. i would be lying if i say i have no hatred or i never get jealous. i don't want to be a perfect human being the way all holy scriptures want us to be and become a saint. All scriptures say the same through stories. Ihe idea is we identify ourselves with good and avoid being evil. We don't need those stories to guide us.
Today people are aware of the consequences of anger and jealousy, hatred and obsession going out of hand.

Yes Sehr, its time i write a new post. i am just lazy. Hope you are doing fine.

Cyberkitty said...

Jealousy is inherent in human nature - we all tend to get jealous when there is the threat of losing something we have to another!!

Shiva said...

Yes Dawn. You did the right connections. I agree to your point that it's a psychological ignorance about the self, about others and more particularly, about relationship. It's all about insecurity and possessiveness. Enjoyed the post.

Try out - Games People Play by Dr. Eric Berne.

tulipspeaks said...

deep discussion on something most of us experience - jealousy.


ammu.

priya said...

Dawn,

Jealousy is created by the society in the name os social status and money, power so on. Nobody is born with jealous, its just a creation when you feel supressed by seeing things which u do not get or when others are better off than you. The main roots comes from the family, friends and then when you grow, you build up within how and who can be your friends and neighbors based on your money. Its all a fake and that jelaousy takes a toll on peoples behavior.

redwaterstew said...

like the choice of images and quotes on this blog.... thanks for visiting mine.

There is no black and white but only shades of grey. jealosy, anger etc in right proportions can be productive me think. what would be world if it were just the good things

Art said...

That's interesting. I've always thought of jealousy as love's dark side. Good post, Dawn.

unaiza nasim said...

hey,
long time gal. Was just thinking that your blog was one of my favorite ones and it still is:)
Abt how people behave, its how they let themself in the hands of life.

krystyna said...

Thank you Dawn for this smart post!

ReadnRyte said...

We are all a product of our experiences and environment and a dash of genetic flavouring. The emotional reflexes in our daily lives have a lot to do with the survival instinct inherent in all of us and jealosy I believe is just one among those. We all have our faults and insecurities and some of those are more pronounced than others...but it would be a boring world indeed if all our faults were recreated in every other in exactly the same measure, woudln't it :) All it needs is an understanding to not view another perosn with the same moral compass that we view life thru 'n we should be ok...
By the way, I liked the quotes you insert in between

Dawn....सेहर said...

sunil parashar: Thanks dear
Cheers

keshi: Thanks dear!
Cheers n hugz

rauf: I agree with you ….you must write one post on this ;)
Thanks for nice analysis point of view of yours :D
Cheers

cyberkitty: Thanks for your comment dear…and I guess those don’t feel any of such fear or threat…for them jealousy is a word in dictionary :D
Cheers

shiva: Thank you dear I will try to find that one for sure :D
Cheers

tulipspeaks: Thanks dear ammu :)
Cheers

priya: I agree with you dear…probably you got it what I am trying to convey here :) Thanks dear
Cheers

redwaterstew: Thanks dear, and yes the shades that you call might be the colors ;) and world would be unreal if it didn’t have all these elements ;) I agree totally with you. This way at least we are able to differentiate things ;)! Thanks for adding your comments again :D….I liked it.
Cheers dear

art: Thanks so much dear. You gave a different perspective to it by saying love’s dark side ;)
Cheers dear


unaiza nasim: Hey dear…good to see you here. I hope your journey is going good with new life and new place ;)! Thanks for all your wishes. Keep smiling always
Cheers

krystyna: Thank you dear :)
Cheers

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