This morning I read Shweta Nanda’s article on
empty nest. I applaud her to acknowledge something like this and not shy away because
of the celebrity status quo.
Some of her call outs in the article made me
think that may be for homemakers sometimes it’s more difficult than the women
who have career outside. Homemakers focus, and dedication is all around the
home and associated with it and hence when kids go away the void is bigger than
what the working women can feel and that is because working women share some
space with outside world whether it be with work and with colleagues and
friends.
“You
will never achieve what you are capable of if you’re too attached to things you’re
supposed to let go of.”
Homemakers have to start from the scratch and
that itself is a change which could be challenging, one can feel that more in
the article.
I also read in her article about “life is
flawed, there is no such thing as a soulmate and nothing lasts forever is so
empowering.”
This statement made me a bit sad or should I say
I still want to believe there is something called soulmate and yes when nest is
empty one can plan life with their soulmate, it could be traveling, a peaceful
walk/hike or even spending time together doing similar tastes of hobbies. But
given that kids have gone and now your partner is also not there then
definitely its individual choice that one needs to make and for a working woman
she may have many options by choosing a job which gives more travel opportunity
or travel to different country and work there as long as you want to stay there
and move on to next and so on.
But yes, when you hear nothing lasts forever
that kind of gives you freedom and hence it is empowering.
“We
have nothing that is really our own; we hold everything as a loan.” ~ Nicolas
Poussin
All this tells me is process for detachment and
this doesn’t have to be until the kids leaves the nest. It can start early by
teaching your kids to be independent early enough to manage their own things
with parental guidance.
I often think of those moments where kids will
go away, and my heart should not cry or depend on them. Of course, as a mother
you will always care for the well-being of your children but when children have
left then we should allow them to lead their life the way they want as by now
we have raised an adult who will make the decision that is appropriate for them
at least.
Basically, it ends up with a task completion of
raising kids and let them fly and we move on with another task which should be
nourish yourself that gives more happiness and contentment in life.
“If
you depend on others to make your dream come true, it may not ever happen.” ~
Dawn
~ Dawn
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