Tuesday, March 07, 2006

With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts.”


aah!! its good be back after a busy schedule..isnt it ? But hey...its not that am not busy...but I can say I could get a glance out of it..:)...!!!

“Your mind will answer most questions if you learn to relax and wait for the answer.” ~ William Borroughs

Its busy but then I had my relaxation by watching movies...and believe me it was not World War movies :D....it was good to see the The Constant Gardner...Cinderella Man.(could have been one of the winners as it does shows the time once Americans went through during that depression period and it shows the family ties and the values.the fight for food etc...seems like now American's have forgotten about that...just coz of all the power..)..and later to see the oscar awards...cool it was worth of them :) and guess what George Clooney got it as well....aah I like him so much :)!!!

“The moments of happiness we enjoy take us by surprise. It is not that we seize them, but that they seize us.”

So it was all fun and fun...but then a discussion came upon with my friends as we were disucssing the movie...the children of S. Africa and a thought came out from me ...adoption !!!

"Adoption is when a child grew in its mommy's heart instead of her tummy"

Yes...is it good to adopt or to have your own kids??? What is it that one looses if we adopt? What do we gain if we have our own???

“Adoption is not about finding children for families, it's about finding families for children” ~ Joyce M Pavao

Too many debates and points to ponder with the pros n cons...!!! True its such a dilemma...cant we love someone else's kid who is just left out by someone to face the world without any love or guidance...!

“It is better to light one small candle than to curse the darkness.”

What happens if we just share our love and what ever we have to provide ...just give to a child...who is already born ...without any one's consent and is already suffering...isnt it a noble way to share your things with them and give them a better future and make this earth a beautiful place!!! And for this some called me I am in a good company such as Mother Teresa & Bishop Desmond Tutu....calling me humanitarian!!!!

“We are afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care at all.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

But with all the good things that we can provide...why cant one can have there own children...leave a mark in the world...who will be there even if you have gone from this universe...gosh!!!! who to give more points...in every aspect injustice is bound to happen whether its adoption or giving birth to own child!
I would like to know what my friends feel about these...am sure I can get some pros n cons too ;)

“Every great movement must experience three stages: ridicule, discussion, adoption” ~ John Mill

Add your thoughts...it improves everyone to wear a thinking cap on ;)

“Too many children in foster care are falling through cracks. . . . Be a hero -- take the time learn about adoption today.” ~ Bruce Willis ;)

12 comments:

Keshi said...

Very imp and nice topic...

Adoption can only be carried out if one doesnt think in terms of 'Adoption'...thats all I say :)


Keshi.

Manish said...

Well frens ke view jaanne ki bajay Nuyi ka view jaanna jyada juroori hai :) :)

But since u have asked it go for two* one each for both condition...
...
* that is min considering u have 7mp CANON :) :)
Let me think from child/s p.o.v.
We always search for our roots..no matter how much love u shower on ur adopted child, one day when he knows abt the truth that he is adopted he will always try to find out his real identity. In some cases a child act of her non biological parents more as a pity or charity in comparison to pure love.

Aur ye yaad dilane ki juroorat nahin ki ........in q :)

Manish said...

sorry for typo

Child sees act of her...

KL said...

I love the idea of adoption. In fact, I think I am going to adopt some/one as I settle down in life. I can't do it right now. I know it's hard for a child not to know his/her biological parents (as Manish pointed out), but I think it's better that he/she grows up with love and a family for support instead of just growing up in some orphanage or in the road. But, yes, if we do an adoption - we should be very ready for the huge burden - physically, mentally and psychologically. An example - as I child grows up and I don't like something of her, I should not blame her and her unknown parents (as we tend to do, thinking that our genes are responsible for everything about us!) for that. Because if I do that, I can psychologically damage that child.

KL said...

Now, where is your Hindi blog?????

Sujit said...

Adoption ahs to be caried out.. by the love towards a kid.. not by sympathy of things like that.. !! Its ture that its a great thing to adopt a kid.. but the main problem that still persists one.. is how much can we trust!.. its the intution that takes over when the kid some mistake to relate things to their past.!! such kind of attitude should not be their!!.. And that is one of the reason that most who adopt a child are either childlesss.. or in other case they have one biological child and another one adopted one!!...

Mirzaghalib said...

“We are afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care at all.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

and she is absolutely right we are really too much afraid to care.

Nice pic is that from Bosch Gardens???

Kumar Chetan said...

m very jealous of U
from where do u find all these quotes
“The moments of happiness we enjoy take us by surprise. It is not that we seize them, but that they seize us.”
and above all them U remember them.
I read a lot of quotes but am unable to remember them...
is kaan suni us kaan se nikli.
I like this one “It is better to light one small candle than to curse the darkness.”
They will soon appear on Bewajah

PuNeEt said...

first I thought its gonna be a light post... the way u started off... bt then mam to bahut hi sanjida topic par aagayi :-))

I loved both the quotes on adoption...

I see no harm in adopting a kid...
what values more is how you feel for that person...
its not that the blood relations r always true n best...
:-))

Very nice post dear :-)

Cheers

ishita said...

i know of a very nice and loving couple who have a cute and naughty son:-) and then they were sure they wanted a second child but they were also very very keen on a baby girl:-)...and so they adopted an adorable little baby girl:-)...and they're one happy family!

i don't see the cons in adoption...all one needs is more awareness and more luvving couples who wld make good parents...then again i wldn't limit it to couples! A good example is Sushmita Sen and her lil baby Renee:-)...

I'm glad u wrote about this and raised a debate...:-)...people will think and be aware:)...thanks:)

Wanderer said...

We dont gain anything just some ppl get a twitch of happiness wen its over to their own child but it isnt that wen u adopt someone that wont be ur OWN
You take a big responsibility to be a mentor of someone innocent and later u cant just kick out from it!!

When someone gives birth to a child, SHE RAISES A NEW LIFE

BUT BY ADOPTING SOMEONE, SHE INFUSES LIFE TO A DEAD HOPE!

Dawn....सेहर said...

keshi: Yes dear...I totally agree n I guess thats the point am trying to make here is ...it is a difficult task and hence its here...easy things anybody does it...isnt it ?
am glad you added your point in little words :)

cheers dear

manish: nuyi aur meri views similar hein isiliye socha mere dost kya sochte hein..:)
what you are asking to do clearly says that the differentiation is made already ...between the biological child and adopted one...so cant go further from here :)
Thnx for your views though :)
cheers

kl: dear you go gal ...thats should be the spirit..all I will say is never make her realize that you are doing a favour...its the least you could do...my best wishes to you !! am so proud of you and your thoughts my dear
cheers

sujit: Yes dear...I think we all know what not to do..so then why do we hesitate to take that step...is am wondering...this shows lack of confidence..there might be n number of reasons...and am not coming to the point here as one of my blog reader..who is new wanderer, has commented so well...I dont have to explain anything :)
you said it right!
cheers

mirzaghalib: Yes Sir!!! :)


kumar chetan: Dont be Jealous just envy ;) hehehehe

puneet: Isnt life like that...first its all fun and then when u deep dive into it ...you find its all together a different story :)!!! And I really appreciate your thoughts ..thnx
cheers

ishita: Dear actually one of my colleague did the same and he always says ..life is heaven for all of them...and I believe in him as he always talks to his adopted daughter and makes sure he gives attention to all her needs...as a father to his biological son...so...we can if we are willing to take that extra step...I sincerely liked your comments, appreciated.
cheers

wanderer: Welcome to my blog and pls do come again n again :)...this morning when I read ur comment...boy you cant believe how happy n excited I was...:) ..as I was reading comments ...I thought I might have to write here another post..but you said it all...thnx for saving my time :)
thnx a ton
cheers

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